Were they truly upset?

Colleagues,

MVP: Be careful making up explanations, they probably aren’t accurate.

At a training last week, I shared photos of cover drafts for my upcoming book, A School Leader’s Guide to Reclaiming Purpose. 

This morning I received an email from a colleague, who was part of that training, apologizing for “unsolicited” feedback she had offered about the cover. 

She said she regretted her comment and it was obvious she had spent time worrying about it.

I don’t remember her making a comment.

What happened?

• Many of us are our own worst critics
  
• We doubt what we say or do
  
• When we question ourselves, we search for answers to confirm or reject our feelings
  
• In the absence of answers, we make stuff up
  
• What we make up confirms our own worst fears
  

These bullets may or may not apply to my colleague (you know who you are and I know that you are AWESOME), but they certainly apply to me. 

Time and time again I make up stuff to explain things for which I lack information.

Time and time again, my negative story is completely false.

Today’s intention: Listen to yourself. Attend to the stories you make up. Remind yourself that you lack information, and that your conclusions may be erroneous.

Cheers!

Frederick