Colleagues,
I need some help. My mom, 89 years young and a faithful reader, was unexpectedly scheduled for spinal surgery yesterday. Monday, I woke near the Atlantic Ocean and went to bed near the Pacific. I am not at my best mentally, emotionally, or physically, and I’m not sure what to expect in the near future. I have had to ask for help. It is so hard to do. I like to be the one serving others and when I can’t, it feels like I’m letting people down. When in our stubbornness, and perhaps arrogance, we bumble through tough times without asking for help, we deny others the chance to serve, to work on their leadership, and to connect with us in a different way. So, I am asking for some help. I don’t have what it takes right now to worry about the daily email. Mara can fill in and we can add some repeats, but if you have the time, consider writing a short (50-200 words) vignette of how you have applied something you have learned from the daily message and the impact it had on yourself or another. We can then share some of them with everyone. This allows us to keep receiving a daily dose of inspiration and it will help us feel more connected as a community. You can email me your vignette here. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers, Frederick
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Colleagues,
I hope everyone had a great Memorial Day. Thanks, Mara, for Monday’s message, and thanks to everyone for feedback on last week’s 5x5 challenge. Thursday’s challenge included finding a picture of yourself as a child and treating yourself as you would that child. Today let’s dig just a bit more deeply into the why behind it. There are two kinds of stress:
When we place excess expectations on ourselves, when we beat ourselves up, when we focus on what we didn’t do and what didn’t work out, we move ourselves into a state of distress. When we create realistic expectations, when we are gentle with ourselves, when we focus on our strengths and successes, we move ourselves into a state of eustress. So why the child picture? It may be easier to recognize how damaging negative talk is when we connect it with our child-selves. It may be easier for us to praise ourselves when we connect it to our child-selves. In a nutshell, take care of yourself. Cheers! Frederick |
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